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I have been married to my wife and hero (Stage 4 Breast Cancer Survivor) Stacy for 23 years. We have raised three awesome son's. Together Stacy and I have learned that true love can ONLY be tested through time. True Love is tested through hardships, boredom, and pain. True love has to whether through life's busyness, while withstanding the pressures of Job, family, and home, middle and old age. You determine whether the LOVE you have is true over time. Respect each other,encourage each other, and serve each other minute by minute, hour by hour...As time alone will tell!

Friday, January 31, 2014

ALWAYS TREAT YOUR WIFE LIKE A LADY

Husbands,be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect. 1 Peter 3:7... Showing a woman honor and respect involves so much more than chivalrous gestures such as holding a door, rising politely at the dinner table, or laying one’s coat over a puddle of rainwater. A husband’s treatment of his wife like a lady begins with his attitude toward her. Do you truly value your spouse, or do you take them for granted? Do you view your wife as a gift from God, or as more of a burden, “the ol’ ball and chain”? The bible describes a wife of noble character as her husband’s crown” (Proverbs 12:4), “worth far more than rubies” (Proverbs 31:10). A Godly wife is a treasure to be cherished, deserving her husband’s highest compliments and praise. God is calling wives to be true ladies, kindhearted and worthy of respect; he is calling husbands to be gentlemen, and to give their wives the honor they have earned. How will you demonstrate this in your marriage today?

Thursday, January 30, 2014

TAKE THE DAYS ONE AT A TIME. SOON FIFTY YEARS WILL PASS- BUT IT WON’T SEEM LIKE IT.

Oh, satisfy us early with your mercy, That we may rejoice and be glad all our days. Psalm 90:14.... A lifelong marriage is built day by day. It is made of days that seem momentous and days that seem mundane. Yet everyone is important. Everyone is indispensable. As you and I live out each day with our spouse to the fullest potential, sharing its joys and challenges, our days will steadily join together like the masonry in a sturdy brick home, forming a relationship that is solid and secure. Such a relationship, built on the sure foundation of faith in God and commitment to each other no matter what the days may bring, WILL STAND FOREVER! What will you do today that will make today momentous rather than mundane?

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

NEVER LET A DAY GO BY WITHOUT TELLING EACH OTHER, "I LOVE YOU."

A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver. Proverbs 25:11... The words “I LOVE you” are powerful. They can build you up individually and strengthen you as a couple. They can encourage you and remind you of your lifelong commitment to each other, of the reasons why you chose to walk through this life together. Those words never wear out and they never go out of style. STOP….right now take a moment with your spouse…hold hands, gaze into each other’s eyes, and whisper “I LOVE YOU.”

Tuesday, January 28, 2014

TAKE TIME TO WORK THINGS OUT

Many waters cannot quench love; rive cannot wash it away. Song of Songs 8:7 There have been many times in our marriage when the difficulties life brings; have made us feel like we were in the midst of raging waters. It was easy for me to panic in that fear of being overwhelmed. Until I was reminded that I am not fighting alone. God has promised, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you” (Isaiah 43:2). Trust the Lords promise, call out to Him, and cling to Him. He’ll take you safely to high ground. What is the single most important problem you need to work through today in your marriage?

Monday, January 27, 2014

YOU CAN ALWAYS WORK THINGS OUT IF YOU WANT TO

There are three things that will endure- faith, hope, and love- and the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:13.... There have been times when I have felt that things were at their worst, and during those times I have been tempted to give up not only hope but question my very faith. I have wondered why God would allow us to suffer such awful circumstances, when I’ve done my best to obey Him. But the Word tells us that once we are in His hands, He will never let us go. Our faith maybe tested, but he won’t allow it to die. Maybe you’re in a season where you’re feeling the love between you has grown cold, and there seems to be nothing left between you. Be reminded like hope and faith, LOVE never completely dies. Trust God despite every reason to quit, He will prove Himself trustworthy. He will rekindle the embers in your hearts and fan the flames until they are burning steady and strong. For the rest of you...what will you do today preparation for the strength of your marriage during the worst of times?

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Communicating Kindness

Kindness is communicating that someone is valuable through our actions (Smalley). How will you communicate kindness to your spouse today?

Friday, January 24, 2014

WORK AT BECOMING CLOSER

This is my command; love each other as I have loved you. John 15:12 There are an abundance of things I can do to foster feelings of romance, but if I want to experience true intimacy with my wife, I must first plumb the depths of Christ’s love, then give her a love that runs as close to those depths as possible. The journey toward intimacy with your spouse lies along the pathway of obedience to God. We are commanded to love each other as Jesus loves us. What would loving your spouse like Jesus loves us look like? What would you do to reach that kind of love? If it means flowers, do it. If it means picking up dirty laundry, cleaning the bathroom, bathing the kids, encouraging them, or giving them a quiet moment at the end of the day, DO IT. Take the time to become closer today!

Thursday, January 23, 2014

DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO EXPRESS YOUR LOVE

DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO EXPRESS YOUR LOVE Little children, let us not love in Word or talk but in deed and in truth. By this we shall know that we are of the truth and reassure our hearts before him. 1 John 3:18-19 True love- everyone’s searching for it. But how do you know if you have it? How do you and your spouse express your love? Take a moment and write down those things that quickly come to mind. How many of those ideas you wrote down moved beyond the materialistic? Perhaps you, like me came up with many awesome ideas of gifts, and should certainly be used from time to time, but none of those things can prove your heart to be true. The ONLY way to know if you have true love is to see whether it stands the test of time. Has it endured hardship, boredom, and pain? Has it weathered life’s busyness? Has it withstood the pressures of job, family, and home, the stresses of middle and old age? Time alone will tell. Respect each other, encourage each other, and serve each other minute by minute, hour by hour. You determine whether the love you have is true over time…You can begin right now!

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

NEVER GET TO OLD TO HOLD HANDS

NEVER GET TO OLD TO HOLD HANDS I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory. Psalm 73:23-2 It is said that it starts with a tiny fist wrapped around a mother’s finger. It continues with a young hand held gently in one much larger. It endures through puppy love, adolescent relationships, and courtship. And if we are wise, it extends into marriage, through middle age, beyond the golden years, to the very end of life. Why would two people ever stop holding hands? Hold your spouse’s hand throughout your life together; don’t ever let it go until the day when you've fulfilled every marriage vow and finally release it from your grasp, placing it lovingly, trustingly into the hand of God!

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

HAVE FUN JUST BEING TOGETHER

HAVE FUN JUST BEING TOGETHER 1 Timothy 6:17 God…gives us richly all things too enjoy In all the busyness of your life; when was the last time you took the time to simply have fun with your spouse? Solomon said, “I commend the enjoyment of life” (Ecclesiastes 8:15). Have a good time with your spouse. Enjoy each other’s company. It doesn’t have to take a lot of money (or any for that matter) to have fun if you think of creative ways to be lighthearted and playful together. Have trouble with creativeness…Reflect on the One who provides you with so many blessings. Who fashioned and breathed to life the incredible person with whom you delight to share it all! Go ahead-Have some FUN!

Monday, January 20, 2014

YOU ONLY GET OUT OF MARRIAGE WHAT YOU PUT INTO IT

Whoever sows generously will also reap generously. 2 Corinthians 9:6 Several years ago we owned a house and had our front yard re-landscaped. New grass, a new flower bed arrangement with a water fountain, and new ground cover along with new flowers. After the installation was complete. I was not able to merely sit back and enjoy the new landscape. No, I had to work continuously keeping the weeds out, the ground cover cut. I had to constantly water everything, and the lawn had to be mowed each week. If your marriage is going to last a life time, it requires the same level of devotion and energy. Each must be available to the other when needed, fully present, ready to listen, to talk and to act. Both spouses must pour their heart and soul into the landscape of their marriage, making whatever sacrifices necessary to ensure success! The payoff is a rich, healthy, loving relationship that lasts. Sound Good? Devote time and energy to your marriage.