DON’T TRY TO CHANGE EACH OTHER

Honor God by accepting each other, as Christ has accepted you. Romans 15:7.... There are core aspects of each individual that are hardwired into their personality. No matter how hard you try, you won’t ever be able to change them. You will never turn someone who is basically reserved into a person who is naturally outspoken and gregarious. A generally detailed oriented person will always struggle when dealing with abstract, nebulous circumstances. Every personality trait has positive, beneficial qualities, as well as the potential to produce negative results. The downside of a good personality trait usually becomes apparent when it is carried to extremes. For example, a person’s imbued with strong leadership qualities and a decisive nature may go too far and step on others’ toes. Someone with a great work ethic might go overboard and become a workaholic, bringing harm to the relationship with their spouse and children. However, in His wisdom God brings into marriage two people whose personalities mesh, supplementing each other’s strengths, making up for each other’s weaknesses, and moderating one another’s tendency toward excess. The secret is not to try to change the person the Lord gave you as your spouse but to receive them with acceptance, join with them enthusiastically, and help bring out the best of their God given personality!